
How often have you seen the same successful person in the news like 100+ times? They’re in Time Magazine on the list of the most influential/beautiful/cool people. They’re the “Rockstar” who is bestselling/best-winning/best-dressed. Wherever they go, the cameras are on as they relentlessly push through the paparazzi. They’re on Facebook with 2.5 million+ fans even though they never update their page–they even have a fan page for their dog that has more friends than you have. They always Tweet about the most mundane, lame things–(ie. “I’m off to Hawaii again. Hoping 2 catch a nice wave…”). And try as you might, you can’t delete them from your mind. Everywhere you turn, they’re there, promoted, packaged, and sold as the embodiment of success. It gets annoying. It gets old. It even gets depressing. “How can I ever become that successful?”, you ask, as you look at your comparatively bland life that consists of a 9-5 joke that is really just an exercise in anger management, bills that (like money-hungry vampires) suck the life out of your paycheck, and a future that is (like your own celebrity status) as yet: Unknown.
So, how do you achieve your full potential if when you think of success all you can see is that annoying “Rockstar”? He’s the 30-something CEO that invented that billion dollar app; she’s the inventor who created a game-changing technology; he’s the success story who went from rags to extreme riches almost overnight. Those celebrities aren’t going away easily. In fact, they’re not going away at all. So, what can you do?
I have a confession: When it comes to celebrity, I’m an Unknown. If you go to any average household and whisper or even shout the name Chris Deaver to the residents, you will get blank stares. No props, thumbs up, or teenage heart-throbbing. It’s the truth. And I don’t care. Seriously.
My mission in life is to simply do my very best and to achieve my full potential. Will that translate into future mega-recognition that impresses people to the point of fan mail floods, requests for autographs on random appendages, or an Uncle Scrooge-like money bin of my own that I can swim in (which would actually be awesome, by the way)? Probably not. And I seriously don’t care. In all the interviews I’ve done with Get in Their Shoes, I’ve found three keys that the greatest achievers (not necessarily the most well-known celebrities) have applied to their truly successful, and happy lives:
1. Join the Best. Partner with and learn from those who have done awesome things in their lives. They may be prominent and well-known, or completely unknown. Just get to know greatness firsthand by meeting one-on-one with it–that is, speaking directly to someone who has done it.
2. Connect with Others. Build relationships with people through listening, empathy, and genuine sharing. Expand your networks again and again. Create a multiplier effect in your social life.
3. Change the World. Service comes in small packages, and it can start with just one person. You can make a difference in peoples’ lives who need you.
4. Do Something Great. Don’t be a spectator in life. Envision great things, and then do everything it takes to get them done. “Vision without work is dreaming, work without vision is drudgery. Vision and work together is joy fulfilled.” –Thomas Monson
Back to the question: The Rockstar versus the Unknown. Who wins? Actually, that’s not the right question. The right question is, “Which is the real Rockstar?”
-Chris